Stop Yelling at Me!

By megan23

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So, mentally I could not sit home anymore and wanted to get back to a job if at all possible. Long story short, someone I knew needed help in a quiet office setting for about 10-15 hrs a week. I thought PERFECT! ...Plus he knew my dad since before I was born. I lost my dad to MS when he was 47 yrs old. So I knew he knew that I had bad days and tons of doctors appointments, and he seemed that it wouldn’t be a problem at all.

This stress could cause a relapse

With that said, he can get very upset and frustrated through the day with my mistakes I make. (I know nothing about this business, and he knew that as well.) He has no problem getting ignorant with me or yelling at me when he forgets things and makes mistakes just as much as me some days. At times, I ignore it and just think, “Whatever, he will get over it...” Then there are times I just want to walk out and tell him I’ve had enough and don’t need this stress that's going to possibly cause a relapse!!!!

Cog fog at work

The other day, I could not think straight to save my life and was just totally scatterbrained!! (Thank you cog-fog.) He said to me, “Where is your f**king head at? You need to get it together!” ...I told him sometimes I can’t think straight and he should have known that with all the time he spent with my father and everything he went through. He didn’t know what to say after that. It’s just very frustrating. I love what I do... it gets me out of bed and somewhere to be by a certain time, and makes me feel like I have a meaning in life. But, I could do without all the BS that comes along with it at times!!!

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Donna Steigleder Moderator
<inline-mention user-id="3940205" username="msfighter"/> I admire your perseverance in pushing yourself to go to work each day when you are being verbally assaulted but you should not feel that you need to subject yourself to that sort of treatment regardless of his situation or yours. Verbal assaults are not acceptable and if he can not control them medically that is one thing. But this sounds like he can but doesn’t. You can find other work or volunteer activity to get you up and out each day but don’t add to your stress by staying in an abusive environment. Be kinder to yourself than continually allowing that stress to be part of your life. This is one of those situations you can control. You don’t have many of those in this life. Consider leaving it behind. Donna steigleder moderator
nancyw421 Member
Others do not understand MS cog fog at all. I think what he said is terrible. Are you sure the job is worth that kind of abuse?
janeel Member
I am so very sorry that he treats you this way. I am glad that you are here and have a safe place to vent with people that understand. You mentioned that he knew your father. And that he didn’t know what to say after you reminded him of that fact...So, hopefully, he will not continue this type of verbal abuse. BUT...if he tries it again...I would not only remind him of one more important fact, I would also remind yourself...(as you walked out the door) That, ... Your Father Would Not Approve of Him Verbally Abusing You! In my book, your father is one of our Ultimate MS Warriors! Not only did he know, he experienced how MS will literally take everything life has to offer. Do you really think he would approve of a man, especially a so-called friend of his having the ability to take anything from his daughter, Especially her joy and on top of that add to the power of MS by stressing you out? I think, NOT! The next time you doubt that you have meaning in life, look in the mirror and place your hand on your heart...With every three beats, feel your father saying, “I Love You”. He is a part of you. I can tell by your online name! It’s time to hold your shield high and defend and empower YOU! Not let this person who once knew your father give MS power to stress you into a relapse. Fingers crossed and palms together for a smoother and empowered journey. Smile it’s just me, Janeel