Don’t Let Grieving Stop You from Living Your Life.

By Tommy Bellas

1 min read

Grieving the loss of the life we used to know, it’s difficult. Gut wrenching. Thinking that all hope is lost. Trust me, it took me a lot of time, a lot of tears and a lot of worry that consumed me.

I found out that the grieving was more destructive to myself than the actual disease that was growing inside of me.

You need to take that pain, that sorrow and that feeling of hopelessness and place it in a box. Take that box and go outside with a shovel. Go to your favorite spot in your yard and dig deep. Place the box inside and bury it. Make sure it’s covered and sprinkle some water on top.

In time, you will see that something will start to grow from that spot, something that will transform into some wonderful, something made up from your wildest dreams. You will see hope, you will see love and you will see beauty.

You will see yourself.

Free and alive.

Don’t let the grieving stop you from living your life.

It has always been there for you.

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Kim Dolce Moderator & Contributor
Thomas! There is always much to love about your writing, and this is no exception. The thing that jumped out for me is that the buried box of pain transforms itself into a beautiful living thing. Pain, sorrow and hopelessness are so often characterized as emotions that should be buried and forgotten as negative forces that can drag us down. I never thought of them that way and I see you don't either. I hope other of your readers notice this too, and feel nourished by it. Keep them coming, Thomas. You are cherished. --Kim
Janus Galante Moderator
Am always thrilled to see another story Tom! As always, thank you thank you! They always help me to visualize the possibilities and right now the whole ground is covered by feet of snow. BUT as I was reading, I can see myself when spring comes and the snow has melted, going down to where the spring stream runs, where my parents ashes are sprinkled and where I buried their beloved little dog Angel, going to this very place and doing as you suggested. Making sure it is sprinkled with the fresh, cold water of the stream. Free and alive? Sounds perfect to me...Janus
bethyc Member
This brought tears to my eyes. Such truth. Thank you for this.
1. Tommy Bellas Member
 You are most welcome. I am so glad it touched you.
Jayhawk1nDC Member
I understand exactly what you mean. Unprocessed or over-processed (going over everything again and again and again) grief can lead to severe depression. Thanks to great mental health professionals, I was able to move beyond grief and depression… bury them. Unexpected personal growth initially came as re-prioritizing life. I had always put family first. Living with MS brought us even closer together. The National MS Society puts the phrase on its Walk MS t-shirts, “Together We Are Stronger!” It’s very true, and I am blessed to have a very supportive spouse and extended family. Gratitude helped me grow. Sometimes this growth happened slowly. At other times it was fast, like a child suddenly needing a new pair of tennis shoes during the school year. Thank you for your thoughtful piece. It leaves me thinking, “What other natural “fertilizers” do I need to seek now to grow more? Gratitude, prayer, family, and friends have all helped me grow. 
1. Lori Foster Member
 Hi <inline-mention username="Jayhawk1nDC" user-id="3951741"/>. I am glad you were aware enough to seek help when you needed it. I hope your story inspires others to do the same. Sending the best of all wishes your way. - Lori (Team Member)